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Being a Blessing vs Being an Enabler
Proverbs 4:7 - acquire wisdom and gain understanding
John 2:24 - Jesus walked away from certain people; He “did not entrust Himself to them, for He knew them all.”
Matthew 7:6 - Don’t cast your pearls before swine.
7 People You Should Never Help
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Lazy and Idle
- Proverbs 10:4
- 2 Thessalonians 3:10
- Matthew 25:24-30
- Proverbs 6:9-11
- they always have an excuse for why they can’t work, but plenty of time for entertainment and distraction
- expect others to provide for them, but are unwilling to put in the effort themselves
- have opportunities but refuse to take them
- consistently waste resources, whether money, time or talents
- only seek help when they are in a crisis, but never take action to prevent the next one
- Jesus did not chase after the rich young ruler when he walked away - Mark 10:17-22
- God allows people to feel the weight of their choices because sometimes pain is the only thing that will provoke a person to change
- you cannot save someone who is committed to staying stuck
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The Ungrateful
- they act like they are “owed” everything you do for them
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The Proud and Arrogant
- James 4:6 - God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble
- pride = self-sabotage
- you cannot save someone who does not believe they need saving
- do not give dogs what is sacred, do not throw your pearls before swine
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The Wicked and Sinful
- Psalm 1:1 - you must separate yourself from the wicked (those committed to sin)
- When you help the wicked, you share in their guilt
- Romans 1:32
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The Foolish
- foolish = the REFUSAL to embrace wisdom
- Proverbs 13:20 - a companion of fools suffers harm
- Proverbs 26:11 - as a dog returns to its vomit so fools repeat their folly
- Proverbs 23:9 - Do not speak to fools for they will scorn your prudent words
- A FOOL DOES NOT LACK KNOWLEDGE; a fool lacks HUMILITY; they REFUSE to accept correction; they HAVE to be right; they are NOT teachable - they want help, but they do not want correction; they want relief but they do not want transformation; then they turn around and blame you when things go wrong
- Proverbs 14:7 - stay away from a fool for you will not find knowledge on their lips
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This Dishonest and Manipulative
- their intentions are not pure
- they don’t come to you because they need help; they come because they see you as an opportunity; they know you have a soft heart; they know you will give without questioning
- Proverbs 12:22 - the Lord detests the lying lips …
- deception is not just a lie; it is a tool of the enemy
- 2 Corinthians 11:14 - Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light; deception is not always obvious; the most dangerous liars are the ones who know how to sound sincere;the most dangerous manipulators are those who know how to act like victims; they will play with your emotions to get what they want; they will make you feel guilty; they will twist your kindness; they will use flattery; they will pretend to be something they are not - DO NOT BE DECEIVED
- Proverbs 26:24-26 - enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit; though their speech is charming DO NOT BELIEVE THEM
- they will tell you what you want to hear just to get what they want
- they always have a story, but the details never add up
- they only come around when they need something
- they guilt trip you if you hesitate to help
- they have a pattern of using people
- they make promises they never keep
- they never take responsibility for their actions
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The Unrepentant
- there is a difference between someone who struggles with sin and one who is unrepentant
- there is a difference between someone who falls and gets back up and someone who lays in their sin and refuses to move
- Hebrews 10:26 - if we deliberately keep on sinning after receiving knowledge of the truth no sacrifice for sins is left
- It is one thing to fall into sin; it is another thing entirely to deliberately continue in it after hearing the truth
- Unrepentance = rebellion
- Unrepentance is a heart posture that says I know what God says but I don’t care
WARNING -
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When you try to help someone who is unrepentant, you are enabling them.
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If you are trying to carry someone that God has been trying to break, you have been rescuing people that God has been trying to correct.
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IF YOU KEEP INTERFERING WITH GOD’S PROCESS - YOU WILL END UP FIGHTING AGAINST GOD!
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You cannot set someone free who loves their chains
- Proverbs 29:1 - whoever remains still necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed WITHOUT REMEDY
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There comes a point where correction will no longer work
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some people are not suffering because of the devil; they are suffering because of their own hard heart
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God is full of mercy, but He is also a God of Justice; He is slow to anger, but He is not slow to judge those who refuse to turn from their ways
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Romans 2:5 - because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart you are storing up wrath against yourself
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Parable of the Prodigal son
- the father did not chase after him when he left; he did not rescue him when he wasted his inheritance; he let him go; it was only when the son was starving in the pig pen that he came to his senses.
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Some people will never change until they hit rock bottom
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Some people will never repent until they are broken
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Some people will never listen until they have lost everything
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If you keep trying to rescue them before they repent, you are interfering with the lesson that God is trying to teach them.
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WHAT SHOULD YOU DO INSTEAD
- pray for them
- ask God to soften their heart and lead them to repentance
- speak truth, but don’t force it
- give them the Word but do not argue or chase after them
- set boundaries - do not let their rebellion drain you emotionally, financially, or spiritually.
- Let God deal with them
- Some people need to experience hardship before they turn back to God